Coping With A Break-Up

A dear friend of mine is down in the dumps because of this girl who led him on and eventually broke his heart. He seemed irreparable just like most people are after a break up. I've experienced a number of break-ups myself and boy I sure was a terrible mess then. Coping up is hard and your family and friends can only do so much. You gotta help yourself too. Easier said than done, I know, but you just gotta do it. I told him that what he needs right now is a good distraction for him to take his mind off things. Here are the things I suggested:

1. Video Games

XBox, Sony PS2, Wii

Back in high school, I was so hooked to playing video games. It's all I ever did day and night because my goal was to finish the game period. I think these things are good investments for broken-hearted people. It's a momentary escape as well as on outlet for all the pain and miseries they are going through.

2. Read Books

The Lost Symbol by Dan Brown

Thick books if possible and please, be sure to buy the ones that won't remind you of the person who just broke your heart.  Books have always been good investments for EVERYONE.  They not only take you away from reality for a brief period,  but you also get to enhance your grammar and vocabulary . Plus you get to learn A LOT more. Browse through Amazon and look for best-sellers with reviews that say "i could hardly put the book down" or "i've been up all night reading it".

3. Get Into A New Hobby

 

Bikram Yoga

A new hobby that would entail days of training sessions is one of the good distractions I can think of. Going to the gym to get in shape, trying out Muay Thai or by simply just doing volunteer work are sure fire ways to channel your pain and release it through your adrenaline. At the end of whatever hobby you choose,  you'd be dead tired and ready to pass out as soon as you get home BUT you also get that sense of fulfillment. =)

4. Adding Fuel to the Fire 

Now this takes a LOT of hard work and determination and I don't expect anyone to master this right after a break up unless they're really furious and they don't want anything..anything at all that has got to do with the person who broke their heart.   Honestly, I have yet to master this. But after a break up, DO NOT stalk through your exs facebook and other accounts. Also do not listen to the songs or watch movies and shows that would surely remind you of your ex. Try to run away from those things. I know it's so hard to actually let go of your ex and the things you'd normally do and share, but dwelling on those things, won't help at all.

Moving on is probably one of the hardest things to do ever but you've gotta start somewhere. I hope those things above help in one way or another. It's inevitable for the loneliness to creep inevery once in a while but with the right presence of mind and if you've got that strong will to help yourself to move on, you'll make it sooner than you expected.

Guess Who's Back

So after what seemed to be an eternity of hiatus, I figured that I should probably be writing/blogging again and most definitely start reading books again. Time to put some oil onto those rusted grammar wheels.More on that later on...I'm always on my way home to jump start my weekend. Spent almost the whole day looking for a template that will actually set the mood for my blog. This will do for now.